A journey begins .
1. What does hijab means and who’s supposed to wear it ?
The Hijab is a veil, headscarf, that covers the head and chest, thats the vision that comes to ones mind, when some one brings up the word “hijab”, in my opinion, “Hijab” is not just a headscarf that covers ones hair and chest but it’s also a modest way of dressing, as well as a lifestyle, it’s supposed to be worn by females beyond the age of puberty in the presence of non mahram males according to Surat A-Noor, Ayah 31
وَقُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا ۖ وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَىٰ جُيُوبِهِنَّ ۖ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُولِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَىٰ عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ ۖ وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِنْ زِينَتِهِنَّ ۚ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ
“and say to the faithful women to lower their gazes, and to guard their private parts, and not to display their adornment except what is apparent of it, and to extend their headcoverings (khimars) to cover their bosoms (jaybs), and not to display their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers, or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their womenfolk, or what their right hands rule (slaves), or the followers from the men who do not feel sexual desire, or the small children to whom the nakedness of women is not apparent, and not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known what they hide of their adornments. And turn in repentance to Allah together, O you the faithful, in order that you are successful ”
But of course, a woman can wear anything she would like to when she’s inside her home, with mahrams.
There’s something that many forget, hijab is not only restricted to females, males also are supposed to wear “hijab”, here i’m not talking about the fact that they should cover their head ( unless the person chooses to, then there’s nothing wrong with it ) but to wear modest clothing, that cover private parts, that are not see through. A sign of modesty as well, is to avoid wearing gold, silk, or feminine clothing such as earrings, bracelets ect .. and to avoid clothes that are flashy or extravagant – and this includes men as well as women,
2. Why hijab ? why compulsory ?
Hijab is first and foremost for modesty, in islam a woman has the freedom to express her views; give her opinion; the freedom of possession; the freedom of choosing a suitable husband, freedom to work, freedom to have hobbies, freedom to go to school, freedom to learn and seek knowledge, there is no obstacle in woman’s hijab which stops her from enjoying these freedoms and what relates to them, furthermore, in islam, a woman after marriage keeps her fathers name, and is not supposed to take her husbands name, because islam recognize that women have a personality and an existence and name before marriage and they’ll keep it even after marriage, islam is very fair towards women, so hijab is a plus to all these rights that the woman has, a right to be protected and to be treated like a gem.
3. Is hijab just a way of clothing or is there more to it ?
As mentioned earlier, hijab is not just modest clothes that a man and woman has to wear, there’s more to it, Hijaab is an attitude in itself, and a lifestyle.
The prophet saw said : “There are two types of the people of Hell that I have not seen yet….women who are clothed yet naked, walking with an enticing gait…..” (Muslim).
So one should walk respectively ( women and men ) and avoid attracting others attention .
Lowering the gaze: Indeed, the most precious ornament of a woman/man is modesty, and the best expression of modesty is in the lowering of the gaze, and not stare at the opposite sex or even a woman staring at other women or men at other men.
The Muslim woman/man walks and talks in a dignified and business-like manner, avoiding flirtatiousness in their facial expressions and movements. Flirting and seductive behavior are characteristics of wrong-minded women/men. Allah taala says: “…Then do not be too pleasant of speech, lest one in whose heart there is a disease should feel desire (for you)…. “sourat al ahzab
Avoid gossiping and backbiting, which is the most awful thing one can do, since it could cause destruction in people’s homes and lives.
These are just few examples, there’s plenty of them, that i’ll be discussing in other posts Inshallah
4. My experience
So i didn’t know much details about Hijab in the past, since in many muslims countries, people see Hijab as part of the traditions and culture only and always connect it to older women who should wear it, and many don’t know the truth behind it, and the beauty of it.
Few years ago, i started reading more about it, i was interested in learning more, discovered it’s beauty, i started wearing it straight away, not because it’s the most beautiful thing and feeling, but out of love for Allah, no one have ever forced me to do so, it was my decision, and now thinking back, i guess it’s the best decision i’ve ever made, many who wear it would agree with me, and i would love many girls who don’t to try it once and think about the reasons behind it in order to feel it’s beauty, i personally feel special whenever i put it on, that’s another reason behind wearing modest clothes.
I’m still working on the spiritual part of Hijab, but it definitely allows you to come way more closer to what really counts in life, and to learn more about who you really are and not think much about the materialistic parts of life .